Especially while growing up, we look up to our role models, who are most likely our parents, other family members, mentors or even some celebrities.

We look up to them and maybe to everything they do. Their actions are like poems to us and we try to become like them. We try and try, until we succeed – at least partly. We tell to our friends that our role model is really one of the kind and he or she has such remarkable qualities that everyone should look up to them.

Then we grow up. We see things from different perspective, with more clearness and we get wider general view of life. This moment can lead us to realisation that the actions of our role model weren’t the best ones and that maybe we should never look up to them. We see maybe that most of role model’s actions are perhaps actually pretty low and that our role model is even still stuck in the same way of thinking. Maybe we even become embarrassed that we ever tried to become like our (now already) former role model.

We grow up and overcome it, but our role model still stays in the same place. The feeling of sorry for our former role model and sorry for our mistakes can overwhelm us and we can get lost in overanalysing. But it doesn’t really help, does it?

Maybe we find a new role model. And take it one step further. There is no guarantee that the same situation will not happen again, when we reach the certain level of growth. And this is all positive. If we would never look up to our first model, we would maybe never reach the level of awareness that we have now. Furthermore, if it didn’t happen as it did, we would never maybe meet our next role model, who will take us one step higher.

Everything happens for a reason and we cannot just jump 3 levels up. Baby steps and lessons learned.